A self-respecting mother will make her child proud.
At the risk of sounding OLD (I'm only 49!) I want to rant about something that's been bugging me, today it's not about politics or popular culture icons, but it's about us.
It's. About. Moms.
I have been noticing something the last few years, and it makes me really sad, disappointed. I am not the type to think that whenever one steps outside the house, they should be fashionable and chic, fully made up and dressed formally-- but it makes me really wonder where our society is going when I see women (of all ages!) even with child(ren) in tow wearing the following:
- Big, ugly tattoos everywhere (is that attractive?!)
- Multiple piercings on the face and/or tongue
- pink, purple, bright red, yellow or blue or ? hair
- jeans that are way too small, too low
- pajama pants or pajamas as an outfit
- tops that leave NOTHING to the imagination (WHY do you think I want to see your boobs or your big fat rolls?!)
- Sweat pants worn on a daily basis at schools!
I have noticed this over time and wonder, where are we headed? Usually, the children in tow of such women like this are less than pleasant to be around, too.
I know we are less formal than our parents were, Donna Reed we are not. But what's wrong with being clean, neat, presentable, wearing clothing that fits your body, and not revealing all the ugly parts of one's fat to the world?
I am not beautiful, nor am I a fashion plate, I am not even halfway to chic, but I am clean and I present myself with some sense of pride to the world when I go to the mall, the grocery store and to run errands or to church--and at work when I had a job outside the home. Unless it were a dire emergency, I would have at least mascara, some eyeliner and some lipstick on my face before I stepped into the outside world.
Never before has our population been given so MANY choices in clothing, hairstyles, makeup, and exercise and entertainment. It's not expensive to look decent--or clean. Never before have we accepted so much that looks slovenly and sloppy.
I love it when I see a nicely dressed, clean family, it leaves me with hope that we all don't go down the road of ANYTHING goes, and that we can teach our children that there are certain things or looks that you DON'T wear outside the home.
(I am in no way criticizing the working man with dirt on his shoes, clothing or hands...working men are to be respected and admired and I do not mind seeing them ANYWHERE.)
Not long ago, I was watching the news and the subject was organic food, clothing, etc...and they interviewed a "slob" --she was just a mess--of a mother like I have been seeing out and about and she was talking about our food and what's in it, with BRIGHT PINK HAIR! How messed up is that?! (I am not sure, but I don't think PINK hair is very organic, do you?)
It is up to us, as mothers, to teach and model from childhood, the attitude that we need to respect ourselves AND OTHERS enough to be as clean and decent as we can be, when we go out into the world. Is that too much to ask?
We have to be the guides...to teach what respecting ourselves means and what taking pride in our appearance means. It's not what the movie stars show us, NO, so few of us can--or want to--achieve that.
It's everyday values that comes with spending time and putting the energy into caring.
I want the world to be a good place for this little guy...
(There, I feel better now, this post has been gurgling 'round in my brain for quite some time now...Hope I didn't sound too codger-ish!!
I guess I really shouldn't just pick on women, the other day at the mall, I had to really talk myself out of going up to a young man to tell him his WHOLE BOTTOM was hanging out of his pants and I could see ALL of his boxers. HOW does one walk around like that?!
This winter, at a basketball game, during halftime, there were kids from another school on the court shooting baskets, three of them young men with their hineys exposed in the same way. My husband, bless his heart, is old-fashioned enough for this to make him really mad. He cupped his hands, and yelled from the bleachers: "Pull up your pants or get OFF THE COURT!!!" They looked up at him, and surprised that someone would say anything, reached back and pulled up their pants. I then yelled "THANK YOU!".
My son in law, who is former military, if he is stopped at a light in his big huge work truck, and sees young men with their "pants on the ground" will yell out the window at these punks to pull up their STUPID PANTS....I give him credit for that. He says that all young men should serve two years in the military once they leave school and there would be NONE of this once a kid has been in the military.)